Dear Sister Preacher's Wife

I may know you or I may never have met you. Whoever you are, if you are a Christian woman we are bound together by a bond of sisterhood. If you are a preacher’s wife we are sisters not only in Christ but in the ministry of His Gospel in a unique way. I wrote this several years ago at the request of a dear friend for someone that would soon become a minister’s wife and I decided to revisit it and give it a bit of an update.

I have been married to my wonderful husband, Paul, for 18 years. We have three children ages 15, 12, and 3 (that, however, is totally another letter) We have been privileged to work with several great congregations in Tennessee, New Mexico, Kentucky, West Virginia, and coming soon, Texas. Paul and I have known each other for 20 years and have been in ministry together for nearly that long as well. Having been a preacher’s wife for 18 of those 20 years I do have a few things that may be helpful to you as you begin your life as a minister’s wife, that may be helpful reminders if you’ve been in that role for a while, or may encourage you to be a blessing to your preacher’s wife if you are not one. I hope that you will find these things helpful and I welcome advice from you as I strive to maintain my focus.

1. God should be your first priority in all you do. If you do not put God first on every list you make, it makes life more of a struggle than it needs to be. Be present to offer worship to God at every opportunity. Be present to study His word with fellow Christians at every opportunity. Surround yourself with His people as much as possible. There is a reason Deuteronomy 6:4-5 is called the great Shema or the great listen. God says to Israel, if you don’t hear anything else, hear this: “The LORD our God, the LORD is one. You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.” God should not only be a small part of you, He should be all of your whole being.

2. With God firmly in place as the head of your family make sure that you and your family grow in Him. Pray everyday, read or meditate on His Word everyday. One of my favorite things to do is post things in my home that have scripture on them. It helps me to gear my mind in the right direction. Have conversations with your family about scriptures you have had on your mind and have been studying. Engage in conversation with your husband about his sermon or class study focus for the week and it will enrich your appreciation for God’s Word and grow your relationship at the same time. After telling the people of Israel to love God with their whole self, the Lord goes on to tell them how they can accomplish this command. Deuteronomy 6:6-9 says: “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” This will work for us today as well. As we strive to keep God first in our lives we must keep His word in our hearts.

 3. You, as a minister’s wife, are living in a fish bowl now. Sorry to say, right or wrong, it’s the truth. Be aware of this but DO NOT let it rule your life. You are a Christian Woman just like every other Christian Woman held to the same standards by the only judge that matters, God. You can not control that others will feel they have the right to comment on everything from your hairstyle to your footwear to how you raise your children, but you can control how you react to it. The right reaction will set the stage for how future conversations will be directed and for how you may influence someone to do better for the work of Christ. Proverbs 25:11 says “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver.” If you remember numbers 1 & 2 on the list, it makes number 3 easier to handle. As Matthew 12:34-35 says “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. The good person out of his good treasure brings forth good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure brings forth evil.” What are you treasuring in your heart, the Word of the Lord and His encouragement through it or hurt and disappointment from those who do not represent Him well with their criticism? It will be reveled in your responses. Your tongue will deceive you (James 3:5-12). Do not allow a few thoughtless people and their words to invade your heart and ruin good works for God. Guard your heart and guard your words.

4. This point was not in my original letter. After careful consideration I realized I could not omit it. You need to know there are far more people that will encourage and lift you up than you realize. There are people that will help you get through the tough times and tough words from others. Allow them to do it. It’s tough to be under the microscope or in the fish bowl as I said before. There will be some who like to analyze or tap the glass and irritate you but with prayer and focus on God and His work He will bless you with so many of His people that will want to do nothing but lift you and your family up. I have pieces of my heart all over this country because of the wonderful people God has given me through ministry. They will help you remember that God is in control and that He is worthy of your commitment even when Satan sends people to hurl darts of insult and hurt at you. Don’t let the few that injure you lead you down a path away from service in the kingdom. Hear the voice of God in those who seek to encourage you to follow Him.

5. Be full of Joy. This point used to say be happy but I have come to the conclusion that happiness is relative. It is based on how I feel from day to day. Some days, I am not happy. Some days I am down right upset. But, on those days, I am still full of joy even in the midst of my sadness or fear or upset. Joy at the blessings I have received from a God that will never leave me alone. Joy runs deeper than happiness in my opinion. It is something that allows me to feel those days of hurt and know that that’s not all there is. My marriage is a constant reminder of that deep down joy. How blessed am I, how blessed are you, to be married to a Godly man! Take comfort and joy in the fact that even if this man were not a minister he would still be an active member of the Lord’s Church. Know that he, like you, is a Christian just like any other Christian and he is being held to the same standards by the only judge that matters as well. Others may see the labels “Minister and Minister’s Wife” but God sees His children working in His vineyard as He commanded. Be joyful in this! You are doing God’s will together and not the will of any one else. How blessed you are! 

6. Preacher’s Wife does not equal “she who will run every program.” You have your strengths and weaknesses just like any other human being. Be aware of those strengths and weaknesses and do not be afraid to say “I do not feel I am suited to that job. Perhaps I could do…. instead?” Just because the wife of the previous minister took on a project does not mean you have to. If the Elder’s ask that a program continue that you do not feel suited to, respectfully offer to help find a replacement or find an alternative activity that you can do. Also remember that you have different and unique talents that may or may not mirror your husband. Just because he can do something does not mean you can too. DO NOT try to be someone you are not. It won’t help you, it won’t help your husband, and it won’t help the Lord’s Church. 1 Corinthians 12:27-31 “Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it. And God has appointed in the church first apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, helping, administrating, and various kinds of tongues. Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? Do all possess gifts of healing? Do all speak with tongues? Do all interpret? But earnestly desire the higher gifts. And I will show you a still more excellent way.” Apparently this has been a problem for a long time, even in the 1^st century church. We don’t all do the same things; we can’t all do the same things. See also 1 Corinthians 12:14-20 which tells us we are all one body but we all have different functions. We can’t all be ears or eyes or feet. We need each part to function the way God intended it to. Find the gift He blessed you with and don’t be afraid to try something new to help you discover that gift. You may discover a talent you didn’t know you had. Whatever you do, do it for His glory.

7. You will have to share your husband with the entire congregation. Office hours may be posted but his job is 24/7. Refer to numbers 1, 2, & 3 above. Be patient with him. It’s a hard job to have to be the “go to guy” for every single member. You need to make sure that you are his “go to gal” when he needs an outlet. Keep confident the things he shares. Offer an ear to listen and advice when asked. Let him know when you need attention. Your husband can not read your mind. He is busy with other people’s business much of the time but don’t let yourself get shoved out of the way. You are a priority because you are his biggest supporter. He needs you over any other person in this world and you need him just as much. When God is first in your family and your husband is your best friend you will be able to make it through whatever challenges may be presented to you.  

Please remember that my experiences are my own just as your experiences will be your own but be confident that even the seemingly bad experiences will work out for good if you continue to trust in God’s Word. You are not alone and you are not the only woman in the world that will walk the road that a Minister’s wife walks. You are blessed to be a Christian woman and wife. You are blessed to be a child of God. Not perfect by any means but completely forgiven by the blood of Christ. May God bless your marriage and your work for Him.

If you are reading this and you are not a preacher’s wife, thank you for taking the time to read and try to understand some of the things we face. Many of these things may sound like your life too. As I said, we are all really the same, just Christian women seeking to take the Word to the world. I hope some of these things will be useful to you as well. If you have a preacher’s wife at your congregation that is striving to be a Godly wife and supporter of her husband, encourage her. I am certain she will encourage you as well. I know I would. You would have a piece of my heart along with so many other women who have encouraged me throughout these 18 years.

Your Sister in Christ,

Amanda Merideth

What do you Treasure?

Well, it is time once again for me to take a moment to be a proud mamma. This is the speech that Emma has prepared for Lads to Leaders this year. We have had so much going on here in our little neck of Wild and Wonderful West Virginia. My sweet daughter has worked diligently on study and preparation for this speech and I am filled with joy to share her words with you. 

"What do you treasure? What’s at the top of your priority list?

Two years ago my family moved to West Virginia from Louisville, KY. It was hard work to pack and unpack all our stuff, but what was even harder was leaving the people I’ve known for 8 years, and trying to make new friends. This was especially hard once school started. As I tried to find good friends, I began to notice that I was focusing on and valuing the wrong things. I wasn’t only looking for the wrong things in other people, but I was valuing the wrong qualities in myself. I was worrying about how I could change myself, so other people would view me as someone who’s important. As I worried more and more about what other people thought, I was worrying less and less about what God thought. I was treasuring all the wrong things. Instead of God being at the top of my priority list, the opinions of others took his place.

In Mathew chapter 6, Jesus is in the middle of delivering his first sermon: the Sermon on the Mount. Throughout this section of the sermon, Jesus is saying that no matter what we are doing, whether it’s praying, worshiping, fasting, serving others, or dealing with the worries of life, we should do them all with one focus in our heart.

Matthew 6:19-24 says, “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness! No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.”

It’s easy for us to read this portion of Matthew chapter 6 and focus in on the word money, and while this is an important part of the passage, it’s not the main lesson Jesus is teaching. We may have the mindset that if we are generous with our money and not greedy, we don’t have a problem, this passage is for someone else who struggles with that and not me. This mindset is dangerously wrong. You may not love money, but do you love electronics, your car, or making sure everyone likes you no matter the cost? What Jesus is saying here is not only that you cannot serve God and money at the same time, but that you cannot serve God and the stuff of the world at the same time, no matter what that stuff may be. This is a point Jesus tries to drive into his followers from the very beginning of his ministry to the very end. And, he never promised it would be easy.

In Luke 14:26-27 Jesus uses some very intense language to drive this point home for those who would be his disciples.

“If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.”

Wait… I have to hate people to follow Christ? That can’t be right?

Jesus is not saying it’s ok to have hatred in our hearts here. He’s using very strong and hard to hear language to make the point that we must value him and his teachings over any other person in this world. His apostles knew and believed this and taught it after Christ had ascended back to heaven.

    

Paul in Colossians 3 verses 1-3 says, “If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.”

If we have been raised like Christ this implies that we have died in some way. We have died to the “things that are on earth” and are now living for the “things that are above.” Our minds, our hearts should be filled with all the things that are important to God in heaven.

As I struggled with finding a place in a new community I lost sight of all of these things. I lost sight of what really mattered and of the fact that true treasure doesn’t look like what the world may think it does. My heart was not valuing heavenly things and my eyes were losing focus.

Verses 22 and 23 of our main text in Matthew say, “If your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness.”

It warns that the things you are focusing on can give you light or can darken your life entirely. I am thankful that I already had some treasure hidden in my heart. If I had not, this small struggle in my life may have become much larger. I could have been blinded by the darkness of the world.

I know this won’t be the only time in my life I will have to fight to stay focused on what is truly valuable. Jesus never promised that the treasure he offered would make life on this earth easy. I will have to make tough decisions and sometimes others won’t like what I choose. But, this world is temporary and heaven is eternal. I will choose to focus my heart on the treasure that God has for me and on serving him. I have died to this world and my “life is hidden with Christ in God.” (Col. 3:3)

I was treasuring all the wrong things. Instead of God being at the top of my priority list, the opinions of others took his place. My new treasure is focusing on what God thinks about how I pray, worship and serve.

What do you treasure? What’s at the top of your priority list? "

He Revealed the Mystery

Over my 37 years on this earth I estimate I have heard 3,478 Sunday sermons give or take a few, and have attended roughly 1,739 Wednesday night Bible classes. These figures do not include 4 years at a Christian University taking a Bible class every semester, attending lectureships, ladies’ day programs, ladies’ Bible classes, youth rallies, summer youth series, camps, gospel meetings, retreats, and workshops.

After so many years and so many lessons I think it’s a safe assertion that I do not remember every word spoken in those sermons and classes. I do, most certainly, carry with me the lessons and principles from God’s word that they instilled in me. My faith has been shaped by these times of study with many wonderful teachers who wanted nothing more than to share God’s love, grace, and mercy. Preachers who were committed to teaching me about following God’s commandments, understanding His holiness and having confidence in His justice. They wanted to impress upon me the importance of knowing God’s will for His creation. For most of my life I took these lessons for granted.

Despite the lack of appreciation in my youth God was and is working through those thousands of lessons taught in classrooms and from behind pulpits. I am glad to reflect on the memories, vague though they may be, of sermons from many years ago. One lesson I have been reflecting on in recent weeks is from the book of Ephesians.

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace, which he lavished upon us, in all wisdom and insight making known to us the mystery of his will, according to his purpose, which he set forth in Christ as a plan for the fullness of time, to unite all things in him, things in heaven and things on earth.” (Ephesians 1:3-10)

The mysterious will of God has been revealed and we can know and understand what that will is. From the beginning, from the time of creation, from the first separation because of sin, God had a plan. His purpose, His every move, His will, is to give us the most gracious gift of being united in a relationship with Him. That hope lies in Christ alone. God has called to us through the death of our adopted brother, Jesus Christ, to have unity in the hope He gives us because of His sacrifice (Ephesians 4:1-4).

I have thought of this lesson many times through the years but it has taken on a special meaning to me in the last several weeks. You see, the man who delivered this message was not just “my preacher,” he and his family were and are some of my dearest and closest friends. From the time I was 2 or 3 years old until I was 17 or 18 years old he was the one who revealed the mystery of God’s will to me from behind the pulpit, in the classroom, and even in his home. Though he wasn’t the one who dipped me in the waters of baptism, he was there to hug me and cheer me on as I grew in my faith. He stood beside Paul and me as we exchanged vows and were joined together as husband and wife. He and his wife raised two faithful daughters that I love deeply and I have the distinct honor of claiming as my lifelong friends and sisters. He has left us here on this earth far too soon. I have cried for my friends and I have cried that this world has lost a faithful preacher that loved to reveal the mystery of God’s will to people in his neighborhood and even across the world.

I cannot remember if it was one sermon or a series and I cannot remember the exact words spoken but I certainly remember the man that taught me those lessons and more importantly I remember the principle that has been applied to my life and tied to many important decisions I have made.  I don’t recall ever uttering the words thank you to Johnny Mack Young but I am confident that, because he revealed the mystery to me, I will thank him in our heavenly home as we worship together the One who called us to His worthy cause. 

Goodness

I love to cook and bake. Trying new recipes and making up my own tasty concoctions is what I call fun. My family enjoys that I have this hobby as well. My husband especially loves it when I use the Crock-pot. In his words “It’s a magical pot!” Well, at least that’s how they feel most of the time, there is what has been dubbed "the 1%."

A few days ago I created an extremely delicious looking chicken pot pie. The sauce was thick and creamy and filled with chicken, carrots, peas, onions and some nose tickling, yummy smelling herbs. It was topped off with golden brown, flaky biscuits. The whole house was bathed in the aroma of creamy, bubbly, splendidness and the dish looked gorgeous. The children came into the kitchen to watch me prepare it and there were smiles on their faces as they licked their lips in anticipation. Finally, it was time to gobble up the goodness!

Plates were piled high, the blessing was said, forks were raised, and mouths eagerly received the food. Suddenly, eyes closed, lips curled, forks dropped, and my loving husband gazed across the table and said “This is really bad isn’t it?” We all agreed and were very grateful that there was instant oatmeal in the pantry.

What went wrong? How could this happen? This dish was not destined to be in the 1%! It was beautiful. It was made with love. It smelled like a warm hug (if that has a smell). It had all the right stuff and it was really good, until we tasted it.

As it just so happens, it was entirely my fault. I think the recipe called for 2 teaspoons of thyme … it got 2 Tablespoons … maybe more. I tried to correct it but the more I tried to scoop it out the more incorporated it became. I decided it would be fine since it still smelled and looked so good. The problem was I had defined goodness superficially. I didn’t stop and consider that the real definition of goodness, when it comes to cooking, is how good it tastes.

I am quite convinced that I fall into this trap often when it comes to what the definition of goodness is in my Christian life. I think I am a fairly good gal. I do all the stuff I am supposed to do. I go to all the right places and say all of the right things. I give to those in need. I open up my home to people. I care for my children and my husband. I offer my time and energy to my friends. I don’t give into the “works of the flesh” (Galatians 5:19-21) and I know all about the “fruit of the Spirit” (Galatians 5:22-23).  My good deeds seem numerous at times and I try to fill my home with all the good things I can but, am I full of that fruit that is of the Spirit? Am I full of that goodness? 

When Jesus was asked by the rich young man “what good deed must I do to have eternal life?” (Matthew 19:16) Jesus tells the young man that there is only one who is good and that to have eternal life he must keep His commandments. There is momentary joy; the young man already does all the good stuff. He already keeps all the commandments. He thinks he is all set and asks “What do I still lack?” (Matthew 19:20) Jesus tells the young man that he cannot merely keep the commandments and go through the motions. Jesus says that he must give up all that he has. He has to sacrifice what he thinks is important; in this case his vast wealth. He must make Christ and following Him in His ministry the center of his life. His deeds, no matter how amazing, really don’t do anything to secure his eternal life if they are void of devotion to “God who is the source of all good, including eternal life” (ESV Study Bible note). This proves to be too much for this young man and he goes away saddened by the thought of such a great sacrifice (Matthew 19:22). 

This young man was a good guy by the standards of the law. He did all the good stuff and went to all the good places. He knew all the right things to say and all the commandments to keep. But he was not full of goodness. I know this may seem to be a harsh thing to say about the rich young man but if we are honestly looking at what the text says, the logical conclusion to draw for him and for me is that even if I am doing all the good stuff and I do not fill my heart and soul with devotion to Christ, I am not full of goodness. My question then is the same as the apostles after this event. 

“‘Who then can be saved?’ But Jesus looked at them and said, ‘With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.’ Then Peter said in reply, ‘See, we have left everything and followed you. What then will we have?’ Jesus said to them, ‘Truly, I say to you, in the new world, when the Son of Man will sit on his glorious throne, you who have followed me will also sit on twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or lands, for my name’s sake, will receive a hundredfold and will inherit eternal life.’” (Matthew 19:26-29) 

Much like my beautiful chicken pot pie, I am deeply flawed on the inside. Even in the midst of all the good I may profess or that may be seen outwardly I am not good enough. My words are not always seasoned well, I am broken, and I struggle. I may do many things that look good to those around me but there is only one who is truly good. Through Him, eternal life in heaven is possible, not easy but possible. His goodness was made known to us through the tremendous act of love through Christ on the cross. Unless “I have been crucified with Christ,” and “it is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me” (Galatians 2:20) I cannot be full of true goodness and I cannot receive the inheritance of eternal life. If I am willing to leave behind whatever earthly distraction stands in the way and follow Him then I will be full of goodness, not my own but, the goodness of God. 

Dear Mom,

I want you to know I saw you. I remember what you did. You didn't think I was paying attention or that I would see what happened but, you were wrong. I remember it all and it did something to me that I thought you should know about.

I saw my father trust in you. I saw him gain strength from your love and support. I saw you do good for him. It taught me how to be an excellent wife.

I saw you work willingly to care for your family and for any who entered your house. I saw you as you kissed me goodnight after spending all day in that willing work only to leave your lamp on all night as you did more work while I slept to help provide for your household. I saw you smile though you wanted to cry sometimes from your weariness. It taught me what a woman’s duty to her family is.

I saw you clothed in strength and dignity as you opened your arms, your heart, and your life to anyone that needed you, especially to children, even when they were not always kind to you. I saw you love me and my brother and still have room to love the house full of children that were not technically yours but, to you, they were. I saw you care for poor and needy people in your community, even when things may have been tight in our own home, because you knew that God would provide our needs for us. It taught me to be strong in the Lord and do good to all even though I may feel as though I am the one in need. God will take care of me.

I saw my father gain respect in the church and in his service to the community. I saw you there beside him. I saw that you were a big part of why he was and is the man he is. I saw him praise you. It taught me to show respect to my husband so that he may be respected by others.

I saw you speak wisely and kindly to the children in Bible class about God’s love for them. I saw you teaching them to love and revere His words because He loves them so. It taught me to hold God’s words in my heart and share them freely with all of His children.

I saw you mom. And these many years later, as I have been reflecting on the excellent wife that God’s word speaks of in Proverbs 31:10-31, I see you are that woman and what you have wanted for me all along is to be the same wife, mother, and woman that God says I should be.

I saw you mom. You taught me mom. And now, I want you to know that you are blessed. “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.” (Proverbs 31:29)

One In Christ

Today I am posting something that was a collaborative effort between my 13 year old daughter and myself. This is the speech she delivered for 8th grade girls speech this year at the Lads to Leaders convention. She worked hard on finding, researching and studying the passages used. She made extensive notes about what the words from the Bible meant and I was her assistant in finding her words to describe what she had discovered. Needless to say, I am very proud of all of my children and I want to take this opportunity to show you just one of the reasons why. Happy reading!

"I am an individual. On my own, I am capable of doing many things. However, as much as I may want to, I cannot do everything. I love to play the violin. I have always thought that the violin that is beautiful to play and to listen to. I never realized how amazing it could be until I joined an orchestra. At first, I wondered how this odd sounding part that I was learning would end up sounding like music. It was nice but it sounded incomplete, unfinished, and unpolished. I soon discovered it was only one part of the entire piece of music. Violins, violas, cellos, double basses and a few other instruments gathered together. We all had different parts that alone sounded like a bit of a mess at times but then, my teacher raised her baton and motioned us to play all of our different parts at the same time. I couldn't believe my ears! It was absolutely amazing. When all the instruments came together with their different parts it created a harmony that I could never produce on my own.

Ephesians 4:1-7 says “I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience and love, eager to maintain the unity of the spirit in the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit just as you were called to the one hope that belongs to your call – one Lord, one Faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all who is over all and through all and in all. But grace was given to each one of us according to the measure of Christ’s gift.”

In this passage, Paul is writing about the importance of unity in the “body” of Christ and the blessings of grace and hope being a part of that body gives. He urges the Ephesians and all Christians to examine their attitudes toward the work for the Lord and be sure that they are humble, gentle, patient, loving and eager to replicate the oneness of The Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit and to be unified by the assurance that one hope, one faith, and one baptism brings. This was a real problem for the church of the first century and, if we are honest with ourselves, it is a real problem for us today.

Like I said before, I am an individual and I am quite content to remain an individual on most days. I love my friends and family but at times I just want to do it myself. I am overwhelmed by popular figures in music, television, and movies that encourage me to just be me and to forget about everyone else because I am really all that matters. I am told to focus on my own unique talents and abilities and rely solely on them because me, my, and mine are the only things that will ever really matter. However, as a Christian, it is my responsibility to fight against a selfish attitude and focus on the oneness of Christ and His Church. That’s really hard to do. That is why Paul was guided by the Holy Spirit to remind us that Christians, while we do all have different gifts from God that are to be celebrated we must share our resources and work together. On many occasions in his writings Paul uses the example of a body to describe Christ’s church.

In 1 Corinthians 12:12-20 we read “For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body…For the body does not consist of one member but of many. If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. If all were a single member where would the body be? There are many parts, yet one body.”

Every Christian is different and we all possess different talents, but, this does not divide us as the world might have us believe. We are to use these differences and work together toward a common goal. This can be really difficult to accomplish even when we realize it’s what we need to do. Especially when our different personalities clash, but we are not exempted from striving toward unity just because it is hard.

Christians are to experience a bond with one another which unites them in common fellowship. God did not design us to live out our faith in isolation. He designed the church to function as a community of believers, a body with Christ holding us together as our head. Ephesians 4:15-16 says: “We are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.”   

I love the violin. I love the music that I can make on my own it’s good and I enjoy learning my part. But, when I play with the entire orchestra it is more than good, it transforms into something beautiful and powerful. It makes more sense and accomplishes the goal intended by the composer and the conductor. I can do so much for Christ and His church on my own and it’s good to do that. But, when I work with the entire body, it is more than good, it transforms into something beautiful and powerful. It makes more sense and accomplishes the goal intended by God The Father, His Son, and His Holy Spirit."

Watch Where You're Swinging That Thing!

After many visits to the Louisville Slugger Museum and Factory during our tenure in Louisville, KY we have quite a collection of the souvenir mini bats that guests receive as they exit the factory portion of the tour. I am not really sure we need all of these bats but I can see how they may prove useful in the event of a home invasion as a source of self-defense. They are good for whacking around a wadded up piece of paper or one of those little bouncy balls you get for 25cents out of those vending machines out front in the family restaurant down the street. They are also a source of fascination for my 22 month old. If one of them gets left down low where he can grab it the situation can turn from cute to madness in a matter of seconds.

Here’s how it plays out:

The one year old spies the bat laying in the most conspicuous place it could have been placed by an older someone in the house. His eyes light up. He leaps like a bolt of lightning from a storm cloud and grabs the bat with both hands. He holds it and examines it for a few minutes as he marvels at the object he is holding. The two older children enter the room and see him with the bat. They think it’s pretty cute. “Awww, mommy look, he’s fascinated with the bat. Do you think he’ll like to play baseball when he grows up?” They get down on his level and try to explain what he is holding and how to use it. He doesn’t really care or understand but they have given him just enough information about the bat. “You are supposed to swing it, like this bubby.” Then the scene changes very quickly. “No, No bubby! Don’t hit sissy! No! Don’t hit bubby! Mommy! AHHHHH! Run away!” There is an intervention by me, a removal of the deadly weapon, and screaming by the one year old because he sure was having fun smiling and swinging his new toy. Crisis averted and lesson learned by the older ones about placing objects that may be used to cause blunt force trauma out of the reach of their baby brother. Well, learned for a week or so but that’s another blog post altogether.  

I reflect on this and other situations like it that occur on a fairly regular basis in my house and I wonder if we do things like this even when we should be past it or know better as mature Christians? I am sure I have been guilty of this in my youth as I was just beginning to pick up and marvel at the Word. In my exuberance I may have unwittingly hurled a misused passage or several in the direction of someone intending to show my skill but instead inflicting hurt and damage that may have taken quite some time to recover from. I am prayerful and hopeful that I have grown and am growing in knowledge and understanding of God’s Word every day of my life but I know I still have a long way to go.

Until I reach the unreachable heights of total and complete knowledge of the scriptures I have learned to be more careful with it. It’s not just any old book that can be tossed around and picked apart by my own opinions or used to prove some point I want to forcefully make in your face without taking into consideration how it may impact the one to which it was delivered. The contents of the Holy Bible are too powerful and meaningful to merely swing them around wildly with no understanding of what they are, what they say, and what they do to people.

The apostle Paul reminds the preacher Timothy in 2 Timothy 3:14-17 to remain rooted in his acquaintance with the “sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.” Timothy is further encouraged to “preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with complete patience and teaching” in 2 Timothy 4:2.

   

The Bible is what God has spoken to this world that He created. It is what He expects His people to go to and be acquainted with in order to competently teach others and to be equipped to do His good work. It is to be used to preach His word in many occasions for both encouraging and correcting, for many different reasons, and is to be taught with patience. His words are the source for what is right and what is wrong and the source of my access to my Heavenly Father and the rest he offers to all of His children. Striving to enter that rest comes with an understanding that God’s word will cause change in a dramatic way in my life. “Let us therefore strive to enter that rest so that no one may fall by the same sort of disobedience. For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and spirit, of joints and marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. And no creature is hidden from his sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must give account. ” (Hebrews 4:11-13). His word is alive and it has the ability and the right to cut into my life, intrude on my thoughts, and inform how I should view the world.

This is all very encouraging to me to stay faithful to His powerful word but it is also something that causes me to be cautious with how I deliver this message to people who may not know anything about this mighty sword. This is where the tough part comes in. His word is a sword and I, as a Christian, am called to wield it (Ephesians 6:10-20). Not only am I called to carry this sword into the world I am supposed to carry it with the most unruly and hardest to tame part of myself, my tongue. “No, human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so.” (James 3:8-10) I am now doubly convinced of the level of care I should take with this message I am entrusted with.

My 22 month old was very happy swinging his bat around with his limited information of how to use it but if, as he grows, he never learns more about what it can actually do and only continues to swing it wildly he will hurt himself and nearly everyone around him. Likewise, as a Christian I had better understand the power of what God’s word contains and strive to get it right as I carry it into the world. It is a sharp object after all. I want to make sure I am wielding it in the right way so that it cuts away what it should instead of hacking those who would receive it to bits hurting myself, nearly everyone around me, and most importantly doing damage to how the world views God in the process. Remember, Timothy was encouraged not only to preach the word but to do so with patience. He was also told that the way to do this was to use the very breath of God given to him in the sacred writings of scripture to equip and train himself. I have the same responsibility today.